The last few weeks, I have been struggling. Since the diagnosis for our girl nothing new has happened, some things have escalated. The clothes issues. Temper tantrums have been all over the place and anxiety levels have peaked a bit too. This happens every so often, it is to be expected.
I take my hat off to fellow parents and care's who don't need a FFS mute in their head and throat. I am envious of the ones who don't even take a sharp intake of breath before answering for the 87th time in t...
We are getting towards the end of The a Word - The BBC Drama about an extended family coming to terms with the diagnosis of their son with Autism.
I love the programme - It is not very often that my life imitates art. There was the film Maybe Baby about a couples fertility journey and the hilarity? involved- but quite frankly we both found that a little too close to home, depressing and not very funny. The less said about that the better.
But The a Word has grabbed my attention - It c...
It's a week since autism officially entered our lives.
A week since the Autism Assessment.
The assessment ball started rolling around two years ago.
She would come home with a "bump" note. There were behaviour and relationship problems. She couldn't decide which was her dominant hand and found anything that required coordination and concentration a challenge.
Obviously there could be problems with development, most adoptive children come with the "global development delay" warning. Ch...
April is Autism Awareness Month
Have you watched the BBC drama The a Word?
It is about an extended family going through the assessment and coming to terms with the diagnosis that their 5 year old son Joe has autism. Joe is played by the very talented Max Vento. His character is the focal point of the drama. He has music where ever he goes and it is a very fine playlist if I may say.
There is a bit of a split on the drama from parents of kids who have gone or who are going through the experi...
Today was a mother’s day like no other.
This year was different.
I opened my gift from our girl which she had chosen herself and the card and pictures she had made me. I was also instructed to wear her purple sparkly cape all day as that was my super mum cape.
So I did just that, I wore it all day.
I can’t wear a purple sparkly cape on Mother’s day then when can I?
Our boy was a bit more delayed in getting his pressie to me as he is a teenager now. So he had a lie in an...
You know the posts that start.
To the woman /man that …
Generally they are about discriminations towards breastfeeding mums, apparently healthy people parking in disabled bays, tutting strangers at a the parents of a child.
You get the picture?
Well this is mine, about caring for old people.
To the man
who sighed loudly at my Dad in Sainsbury’s as he was putting his cards back in his wallet after paying for his weekly shopping. You didn’t see the frustration on his face as he tried ...
How Do I get over Bereavement,
the loss of my mum?
I write mine a letter via my blog
So much has happened since you left us, I now It’s over a year since we spoke properly on the phone but it is still my first instinct when something happens I think “I’ll tell mum about that” Only this morning I wanted to give you a "just checking" call.
Maybe I can’t ring but I hope you know anyway.
It is almost six months since you left us and we have all settled down into our...
Friendship Day 4th Feb 2016
Today the cyberworld is celebrating Facebook's 12th Birthday. Lo and behold we have “friendship day” and the opportunity to share our compiled images of our friendships.
Have you ever seen the poem. Reason, Season, Lifetime?
This resonates with me I like how it sits and I've often referred to it when speaking to people about human connections when trying to make sense of friendships.
I feel that this sums up my friendships perfectly.
I remember my firs...
Parenting Lessons from a Six year old?
Can you get Parenting lessons from a six year old? Of course you can and valuable they are too.
Our girl is our second child. My Dad father of 6, Grandad of 18, Great-Grandad of 13, and Great -Great- Grandad of one soon to be two.
He says she is one on her own. He smiles with her laughs with her and so loves her view on life and the world. We all do.
She is our Giraffes Neck, the happy, inquisitive, loving, generous and unique girl th...
What do Elaine Mitchell and One Direction have in common?
Answer A Sabatical I’ve had mine and they are due one. (aren’t they)
I know I haven’t written for a long time. For those of you who follow my facebook page will know that sadly mum passed away on Bank holiday Monday 31st August.
During this period it just didn’t feel right for me to be blogging about what was happening at the nursing home, subsequently planning and holding her funeral. (which was as lovely as t...
The countdown has begun. Only five days to go. FIVE days, less than a week and I have a very unforgiving dress to fit into for the start of the Football Season at
Beautiful Downtown Bramall Lane.
She wears a dress for the football match?
I know, how bizarre. But never fear I am not stood on the kop singing the greasy chip butty.
I am in the “posh” part the members and corporate area. AND I work there. How exciting even though I have to wear a dress. If I wasn't working though I would ...
I read The Sun today – don’t judge I was at my Dads.
The news about Cilla Black was obviously prominent and I read the tributes. One thing that stood out for me was that she hadn’t wanted to be a burden, hadn’t wanted to suffer and had wanted to go out at a reasonable age without being too ill.
The universe served you well Cilla. - Thank you for the entertainment I didn’t like Surprise Surprise but I liked blind date and even recall watching Cilla in Black and White when I was very young obv...
As its Yorkshire day (Just about) and I am a proud Yorkshire lass and the youngest daughter of a proud Yorkshire Man and not just any man he’s my guiding light and solid rock.
Always has always will be – I am so like him as the youngest of 6 I have many qualities and quirks not only from Mum and Dad but also from my older siblings, I also have Youngest Child Syndrome.
Never heard of it? Let me explain I really truly believe that everyone and I mean everyone is older than me. That was fine...
We want our kids to be healthy and active. Our boy is both he is partial to takeaways and the like but he is never still apart from the hours he spends talking to his mates and gaming in his pit. Warning Warning pre- teen boy it is beginning to get That Smell.
Our girl loves to dance, and has a regular exercise routine to help her with mobility, core strength and balance. Both have a balanced diet, we give them sweet treats and snacks. Our meals are mostly freshly cooked clean food. They ...
I have a friend who has a “word” for the year. I must admit it is something I have not done before and to be honest I am not sure if I have the attention span for a whole year. In her case it is always a positive, a word that she will strive to receive or provide in service for that year.Thinking about having a “word” it prompted me to look back. Moi? Looking back, it’s not something I do very often. I am very much a live for today type of person. That is finished move on. No point in dwel...
Well it had to happen one of those calls.
10.21pm. I’ve fell and hurt my leg can’t move at all.
On my way. Arrive at Dads. His emergency bracelet still in pristine condition on the windowsill. Why didn’t you just press your buzzer Dad?
The question didn’t warrant a reply the look said it all.
His knee was swollen but it was his thigh that was hurting. He was grey, slightly breathless and obviously in pain. Now it’s a bit difficult to say when Dad is in pain as he is a bit of a drama qu...
When I was in the cosmetics industry I went to the same training session about personality profiling three maybe four times and each time came away feeling deflated and didn’t like the label I had been given. The course had no effect on my sales or management skills as I just didn’t get it. Why do you need to put people into boxes and expect them to behave in the same way day in day out – It just didn’t sit with me.
Fast forward a few years I was attending my coaching training, Once again sat...
Remember when our Nannan, your mum went into a home 26years ago? You said if I ever get like that put me in a home. I don't want to be a burden. We have all said the same recently to our own kids, partners and friends too. But alas mum you've forgotten that conversation, one that has been repeated many times over the years. Remember how Nannan got a "bit funny". So funny that she would walk across a busy main road to our house in pitch black with her purse tucked either in her bra or under her...
What a mixed bag of a day.
Mum has moved into a nursing home that will be able to tend to her medical and emotional needs. We took her yesterday and at first she appeared to settle but later she was distressed and so she has been moved to a different room on a smaller unit where there isn't as much noise and there are less residents wandering around. Hearing that she is distressed brings up a whole load of questions and I have been a bit wobbly to say the least today.
I was aiming to take Dad ...
In the practice of mindfulness it is important to acknowledge the moment. To acknowledge the feelings the emotions and the take note of the present.
How long does this sadness last?
The text that flashed before my eyes.
No idea. I was on week 12.
Sadness. Our mum the matriarch of the family, her generous nature, beautiful smile and keen sense of humour, physically still here but the eyes dimmed, her smile and humour are AWOL. The sadness is here. Dementia is present. We mourn our mum an...